Turmoil - A story for values
Category : THOUGHTS Author : Shruti Ramesh Date : Sat Apr 28 2018
Dear reader,
It has been a while since I started this unique journey of understanding oneself and what being your true self actually reveals. But although I had some Eureka moments, most of them resulted in failure. I tried everything that adds up to being a good individual. Spirituality videos, meditation, health, compassion, kindness and all the virtues that become part of our values, I tried to imbibe but all to no avail.
After many attempts at failing to keep my anger at bay, my compassion at it's best and my inability to understand situations or others' behavior. At my constant need for validation and at my constant attempts to fail at saying what I want and when I want. The icing on the cake is the fact of having knowledge of how should I be but the inability to make that a reality. I have come up with some interesting experiences.
The most vivid and realistic situation occurred when it hit me that I am not as good as I thought I was. I remember sitting and crying as to how incapable I am of controlling my thoughts. That really put me in a place where I got offended. The first way in to transformation they say is to see the filth with your eyes. And I see it. Daily and every minute. When you are in a state of calm. Constantly aware of the place you are in. Your thoughts seems to rush. Today alone, I saw multiple times my mind flickering between anxiety and ultimate bliss. It is a constant battle to correct your interpretations, to break your circle of ideas and how things are really going and to change the voices inside your head. Once you spend a few minutes concentrating on the state of your mind, you will realise how loud the voices really are. They are scary, baseless and leave you in constant worry. Am I becoming bad? Or was I always like this? Am I trusting enough or am I putting my faith in the wrong hands. Am I dependable or should I mingle more. Am I independent? Or should I start depending on someone. Every second is an insecurity, is a threat and is a constant questionaire that you fail to answer.
I read a few articles on the topic, which say that the truth is for you to find. And it makes the journey harder but definitely interesting.
In this article, I am going to share a story that if you read and remember, you can deal with any situation and become the master of your own destiny,
In a strange land called Beauty, there lived a couple - Mr. Ugly and Mrs. Ugly. They both were married for four years and each year on their anniversary, they go out for a dinner. After filling themselves to the brim, they talk to each other about things that they appreciate and would like to change in their partner.
At the end of their first year, Mrs. Ugly spoke first. I love the way you care, the way your hands wrap around me in the cold winter and especially your small efforts to make me happy are the things I appreciate and my biggest fear is losing you. I do not have anything to complain about. Since, it was the first year, they completely enjoyed each other's company and were still getting to know each other. Mr. Ugly on the other hand, with his broken guitar, played a few tunes that reflected love and they left for home happy and in love.
At the end of second year, it was Mr. Ugly's turn. He looked at her kohl filled eyes and said. 'Oh! My darling wife. I love the way you dress, but I am afraid of all those peering eyes that look your way, so if there is one thing I would ask out of you this winter is to wear clothes that cover you. The wife, felt happy that her husband was possessive about her and it gave her some sense of security so she complied. On her behalf, she said. Dear husband. all though I am quite happy about the little things that you gift me, but I can't help but want the emerald that I saw adorning Mrs. Sassy's fingers. I know we are out of cash but I hope we can buy them this year. And they left for home satisfied that they can convey their desires openly.
Come the third year, Mr. Ugly did not have time as he was busy working to buy the emerald and Mrs. Ugly was didn't want the prying eyes to bother her husband, so they skipped dinner and did the session at home.
Both thought for a great while but could not come up with things to say to each other. So, they parted ways and had an early night.
At the end of the fourth year, as they promised to celebrate it to fill the void of the past year they went to a well reputed restaurant. There they found an old friend of Mr. Ugly who took him aside and whispered. You used to be a stud in school days. Your wife doesn't have any dressing sense. Who wears a full hand dress in summer. I do not understand how you quite accommodate her. On the other hand, Mrs. Sassy was in the same hotel and she walked up to his wife and said, Oh! what lovely choice of gold you are wearing. I wish I could have those. As Mr. Ugly came back, he looked at his wife. He carefully chose his words and said. Oh! lady, please wear your original choices, your legs looked better. And Mrs. Ugly asked him to buy a gold necklace instead of an emerald one. They both left feeling dissatisfied and missed their first year when they were still getting to know each other.
On the fifth year, they finally realised that it was no longer necessary for them to find ways to change each other. They went to a hotel and simply had dinner. It was the best meal they had and they went home happily.
As simple may the story sound, there are few key points to notice.
1. Stop associating characters with names. The moment I said Mr. Ugly, you made a picture of someone really ugly. Drop your preconceived notions, opinions and ideas when you see the world. View it with fresh eyes and deeper insight. It can only come through practice. For now, make it a habit to stop making judgement easily.
2. Humans desire but when desire is not desired happily and worked for, they can eat your inner peace. Desire, do not expect and work for it. Results will appear.
3. Choose your priority. Work for something bigger than yourselves. Know what you are working for. If it is as temporary as an emerald necklace, your work is fruitless since desires can change any time.
4. Prying eyes are all over. Do not fear judgement by others. People are capable of finding faults and doubting even in situations that are completely pure. Do not act for others. Find your way and make happiness a habit.
5. Happiness and purity follows a simple rule. Do for yourself. Do it yourself.
6. Never dream to wear things that look good on others. Wear your own piece of gold round your aura.
7. Even if things do not play out your way, they unfold to reveal life's secrets. What you always dream about may not be what you will always desire. It may change. But what you think about creates your destiny. So, if you want to change anything. Change attitude. Change your perceiving abilities. Change your vision. Your world will automatically change.
I am still not giving up. Hopefully someday the upper layer of doubts will lift and I will finally find my ray of truth. Till then, hope you will try to include these small habits in your everyday life.
Love,
Shruti
Dear reader,
It has been a while since I started this unique journey of understanding oneself and what being your true self actually reveals. But although I had some Eureka moments, most of them resulted in failure. I tried everything that adds up to being a good individual. Spirituality videos, meditation, health, compassion, kindness and all the virtues that become part of our values, I tried to imbibe but all to no avail.
After many attempts at failing to keep my anger at bay, my compassion at it's best and my inability to understand situations or others' behavior. At my constant need for validation and at my constant attempts to fail at saying what I want and when I want. The icing on the cake is the fact of having knowledge of how should I be but the inability to make that a reality. I have come up with some interesting experiences.
The most vivid and realistic situation occurred when it hit me that I am not as good as I thought I was. I remember sitting and crying as to how incapable I am of controlling my thoughts. That really put me in a place where I got offended. The first way in to transformation they say is to see the filth with your eyes. And I see it. Daily and every minute. When you are in a state of calm. Constantly aware of the place you are in. Your thoughts seems to rush. Today alone, I saw multiple times my mind flickering between anxiety and ultimate bliss. It is a constant battle to correct your interpretations, to break your circle of ideas and how things are really going and to change the voices inside your head. Once you spend a few minutes concentrating on the state of your mind, you will realise how loud the voices really are. They are scary, baseless and leave you in constant worry. Am I becoming bad? Or was I always like this? Am I trusting enough or am I putting my faith in the wrong hands. Am I dependable or should I mingle more. Am I independent? Or should I start depending on someone. Every second is an insecurity, is a threat and is a constant questionaire that you fail to answer.
I read a few articles on the topic, which say that the truth is for you to find. And it makes the journey harder but definitely interesting.
In this article, I am going to share a story that if you read and remember, you can deal with any situation and become the master of your own destiny,
In a strange land called Beauty, there lived a couple - Mr. Ugly and Mrs. Ugly. They both were married for four years and each year on their anniversary, they go out for a dinner. After filling themselves to the brim, they talk to each other about things that they appreciate and would like to change in their partner.
At the end of their first year, Mrs. Ugly spoke first. I love the way you care, the way your hands wrap around me in the cold winter and especially your small efforts to make me happy are the things I appreciate and my biggest fear is losing you. I do not have anything to complain about. Since, it was the first year, they completely enjoyed each other's company and were still getting to know each other. Mr. Ugly on the other hand, with his broken guitar, played a few tunes that reflected love and they left for home happy and in love.
At the end of second year, it was Mr. Ugly's turn. He looked at her kohl filled eyes and said. 'Oh! My darling wife. I love the way you dress, but I am afraid of all those peering eyes that look your way, so if there is one thing I would ask out of you this winter is to wear clothes that cover you. The wife, felt happy that her husband was possessive about her and it gave her some sense of security so she complied. On her behalf, she said. Dear husband. all though I am quite happy about the little things that you gift me, but I can't help but want the emerald that I saw adorning Mrs. Sassy's fingers. I know we are out of cash but I hope we can buy them this year. And they left for home satisfied that they can convey their desires openly.
Come the third year, Mr. Ugly did not have time as he was busy working to buy the emerald and Mrs. Ugly was didn't want the prying eyes to bother her husband, so they skipped dinner and did the session at home.
Both thought for a great while but could not come up with things to say to each other. So, they parted ways and had an early night.
At the end of the fourth year, as they promised to celebrate it to fill the void of the past year they went to a well reputed restaurant. There they found an old friend of Mr. Ugly who took him aside and whispered. You used to be a stud in school days. Your wife doesn't have any dressing sense. Who wears a full hand dress in summer. I do not understand how you quite accommodate her. On the other hand, Mrs. Sassy was in the same hotel and she walked up to his wife and said, Oh! what lovely choice of gold you are wearing. I wish I could have those. As Mr. Ugly came back, he looked at his wife. He carefully chose his words and said. Oh! lady, please wear your original choices, your legs looked better. And Mrs. Ugly asked him to buy a gold necklace instead of an emerald one. They both left feeling dissatisfied and missed their first year when they were still getting to know each other.
On the fifth year, they finally realised that it was no longer necessary for them to find ways to change each other. They went to a hotel and simply had dinner. It was the best meal they had and they went home happily.
As simple may the story sound, there are few key points to notice.
1. Stop associating characters with names. The moment I said Mr. Ugly, you made a picture of someone really ugly. Drop your preconceived notions, opinions and ideas when you see the world. View it with fresh eyes and deeper insight. It can only come through practice. For now, make it a habit to stop making judgement easily.
2. Humans desire but when desire is not desired happily and worked for, they can eat your inner peace. Desire, do not expect and work for it. Results will appear.
3. Choose your priority. Work for something bigger than yourselves. Know what you are working for. If it is as temporary as an emerald necklace, your work is fruitless since desires can change any time.
4. Prying eyes are all over. Do not fear judgement by others. People are capable of finding faults and doubting even in situations that are completely pure. Do not act for others. Find your way and make happiness a habit.
5. Happiness and purity follows a simple rule. Do for yourself. Do it yourself.
6. Never dream to wear things that look good on others. Wear your own piece of gold round your aura.
7. Even if things do not play out your way, they unfold to reveal life's secrets. What you always dream about may not be what you will always desire. It may change. But what you think about creates your destiny. So, if you want to change anything. Change attitude. Change your perceiving abilities. Change your vision. Your world will automatically change.
I am still not giving up. Hopefully someday the upper layer of doubts will lift and I will finally find my ray of truth. Till then, hope you will try to include these small habits in your everyday life.
Love,
Shruti
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